Get clear enough that your
next step feels obvious.
The Reframe Method’s Get The Divorce™ course helps you decide whether to divorce, break up, or
rebuild your relationship...
while calming your nervous system
and without gaslighting yourself, blowing up your life, or collecting 47 more unwanted opinions.
Created by Cristina,
NLP + hypnosis life coach
and founder of The Reframe Method™.
What you actually get support with inside
Get The Divorce™
This isn’t a “burn it all down” course. It is a relationship clarity process that walks you from panic to a real plan.
PHASE 1:
Clarity
See what’s really happening in your relationship… not just what you hope it is.
Get honest about what’s actually happening behind closed doors.
Use the Divorce Clarity style questions to figure out what kind of relationship you’re really in.
Separate real problems from guilt, fear, and “I should be grateful.”
Understand your patterns and why you keep staying, even when you’re miserable.
So you can stop asking “Am I crazy?” and finally see the full picture.
PHASE 2:
Confidence
Calm your nervous system so you can think straight and trust yourself.
Grounding audio and nervous system tools for when your brain is screaming… so you can respond instead of react.
Scripts for hard conversations that don’t spiral into a three-day fight.
Support to stay calm while you quietly gather information and make a plan.
Practices to stop doom-scrolling your relationship and start actually living your life.
So you can make choices from self-trust instead of fear and panic.
PHASE 3:
Decision & Exit Plan
Make a decision you can live with… then build a life that actually fits you.
Decide whether you’re staying or leaving from self-trust, not pressure or desperation.
If you’re leaving, outline your emotional and big-picture logistical next steps so you’re not free-falling.
If you’re staying, define what “giving it your all” really looks like, so you’re not carrying the whole relationship on your back.
Start rebuilding your identity outside the relationship, so you’re not just “someone’s ex” or “someone’s partner.”
So you’re not just fantasizing about leaving… you actually know what to do next
You don’t have to be sure you’re leaving to belong here.
This course is for you if, even
one of these apply…
You've been Googling "should I leave my partner" at 2am for longer than you'd like to admit
Your relationship looks totally fine on paper and you can't explain to anyone why you feel like you're dying inside
Some days it's okay. Other days it's chaos. And the rollercoaster is exhausting you more than the actual problems are
You're scared of leaving. But you're also scared of waking up in ten years and realizing you wasted them
You keep thinking "they're not a bad person" like that's a reason to stay
You've heard "you deserve better" so many times it's lost all meaning
You're functioning. You're showing up. But you feel like a version of yourself you don't recognize anymore
How Get The Divorce™ Works
A simple three-step process to move you from emotional fog to a decision you can live with.
Step 1:
Turn The Lights On
You start with the lessons — watch them, listen to them like a podcast, or read them. Whatever works for where you are that day. Some days you'll have capacity for twenty minutes. Some days five. Either way, you're moving. Each lesson is designed to help you see your relationship clearly — not through guilt or hope, but through truth. The kind of truth that's been living in your body for months already.
Step 2:
Do The Actual Work
This is where it gets real. The workbook questions, the reflection prompts, the grounding audios — these aren't optional "if you feel like it" extras. This is the course. You're not just watching someone explain things. You're having an honest conversation with yourself, probably for the first time in a long time. When things get heavy — and they will — the grounding audios are there to bring your nervous system back down so you can keep going.
Step 3:
Make A Decision You Can Actually Live With
At the end, you'll complete your Clarity Snapshot. It pulls everything together and shows you your two paths clearly — rebuilding something that has real potential, or planning a real exit instead of a panic jump. You won't leave this course with more confusion. You'll leave knowing your next step. Finally.
Hey. I’m Cristina, founder of
The Reframe Method™
Hey. I'm Cristina.
I spent years in a marriage that was slowly scraping layers off of who I was. I stayed way longer than I should have. And for a long time, I actually thought that made me strong.
It didn't. But leaving did.
When I finally got out, I had no idea what I was doing. I'd been a stay at home mom. I didn't have a career. I didn't have a plan. I just knew I was done lying to myself.
I figured it out anyway.
Now I walk into my home, a home that is completely and entirely mine, and I feel peace every single time I walk through the door. My welcome mat says "happiness lives here." And it genuinely does.
I built this course because nobody could've said anything to me when I was in it. I wasn't ready. You'll get there when you get there. I just want to make sure that when you do, you're not free-falling. And you've got a hand to hold on the way there.
If I can rebuild my life,
you can absolutely rebuild yours.
Inside Get The Divorce™
Everything you need to get out of emotional limbo and into a decision you can live with.
What you’ll move through
12 core lessons you can watch, read, or listen to on your own time, in whatever order your nervous system can handle that day
A printable / fillable Clarity Workbook that walks you through every lesson
Short, direct prompts that help you stop spinning and finally put your real thoughts on paper
A grounding audio library for panic, spirals, hard conversations, and the emotional crash after arguments or “talks”
Conversation scripts for setting boundaries, asking for change, or having the big “we need to talk” without going blank
Clear decision pathways for both outcomes: staying and rebuilding with real standards…
or creating a thoughtful exit plan instead of a chaos jump
How it works behind the scenes
Self-paced online course you can access 24/7 from any device (phone, laptop, hiding in the bathroom… all welcome)
Watch as videos, listen like a podcast, or read the lessons if you’re a “give me the words” person
Completely private: no group calls, no Zoom introductions, no strangers knowing your business
Lifetime access to all lessons, grounding audios, and any updates for as long as the course exists
Designed to work even if your partner has no idea you’re taking it
Easy to move through in small (15-20 minute), honest bursts that fit around kids, work, and emotional capacity
Questions you might still be asking…
No. If you’re in a committed relationship that feels confusing, heavy, or quietly killing you, you belong here. Divorce is the metaphor because the stakes feel that big. Whether your next step is divorce, a breakup, or rebuilding what you have, the clarity process is the same. Any time you see me mention “kids” in the course, read it as “anyone else your decision impacts”... kids, step-kids, future kids, or no kids at all.
Then the course did its job. You’ll use the tools to stop over-functioning, set real boundaries, and rebuild from truth instead of fear. Staying is not the coward option. Leaving is not the brave option. The brave option is telling yourself the truth and then living in alignment with it.
No. I’m not here to be your judge or your psychic. This course won’t spit out a “stay” or “go” verdict. It walks you through a process so you can see clearly, feel your actual truth, and make a decision you can stand behind five years from now… not just tonight.
No to both in the traditional sense.
Get The Divorce™ is a clarity, coaching, and nervous system support guide. It’s not a substitute for therapy, legal advice, or financial planning.
When I say “hypnosis,” I mean gentle, guided audios that help you relax your body and talk to your subconscious in a kinder way. You’re fully in control the entire time. You can pause, stop, or replay anything. The point is to make the hard parts of this decision feel less overwhelming in your body, not to make you do anything you don’t want to do.
It’s self-paced. You can binge it in a weekend if you’re in full crisis mode… or move through it slowly in 10–20 minute chunks when you have capacity. Most people start feeling clearer within the first few lessons, but I designed it so your nervous system can go at its own speed. I suggest sitting with each lesson for at least a day to a week before moving on.
The course is private and self-paced. There are no group calls, no name call-outs, and only an *optional* Facebook community to join, IF you want to connect with others who are struggling alongside you.
You log in, you do the work on your own time, and you decide what you share, when, and to who. Many people take this quietly at first, just to get clear on what’s actually happening and what they want.
Totally valid fear. A lot of people stay stuck because they collapse “I know this isn’t right” with “I have to blow up my entire life tomorrow.” This course helps you separate those. First we get clear on the truth. Then we look at timelines, options, and baby steps… including what to do if you need to stay longer while you quietly build a plan.
If you’re in an abusive relationship, your safety comes first.
This course can help you get clear on what’s happening and validate that you’re not “crazy” or “too sensitive,” but it is not a replacement for safety planning or professional support. If you feel unsafe, please also reach out to a local hotline, shelter, or trusted professional who can help you with a personalized safety plan.
No. This is not a “how to file” or legal-process course. I don’t cover paperwork, state laws, or how to serve your spouse.
What I do walk you through is the part everyone skips: your nervous system, your patterns, your truth, and your actual decision…
so when you do hire a lawyer or mediator, you’re not crumbling, second-guessing, or begging for crumbs.
Get The Divorce™ gives you a step-by-step way to have it.
See your relationship clearly, without collapsing into panic or guilt.
Calm your nervous system so you can actually hear yourself think.
Decide whether you’re staying or leaving… and know what comes next.